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Confessions of a Borderline Binge Eater

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It wasn't her weight, but her third-helping hangovers that led writer Colleen Oakley to tackle her eating habits head-on. Here, she tells the story of how she conquered her bingeing habit and regained control of her cravings.

My Wake-Up Call

Last week I went out for Mexican food. One basket of chips, a cup of salsa, three margaritas, a bowl of guacamole, a steak burrito covered in sour cream, and a side order of rice and beans later, I wanted to vomit. I held my protruding stomach and looked up in pain at my boyfriend, who patted my belly and laughed. "You did it again," he said.

I didn't laugh. I felt fat, out of control.

My parents always said I had the appetite of a truck driver. And I do -- I can eat and eat...then realize I'm about to get violently ill. I remember vacationing at a beach house with my family when I was 6 years old. After dinner, I sneaked to the fridge and ate an entire jar of dill pickles. At 2 a.m. my mom was cleaning vomit off my bunk bed. It's as if I lacked the brain mechanism to tell me I was full.

If you look at me -- five foot eight and 145 pounds -- you wouldn't guess I was a binge eater. Maybe I'm blessed with a good metabolism, or I stay active enough with running and biking that the extra calories don't affect me too much. Either way, I know that what I do isn't normal -- and it definitely isn't healthy. And if statistics bear out, it will eventually make me overweight.

Shortly after the episode in the Mexican restaurant, I decided it was past time to address my bingeing. First stop: health journals. According to a Harvard Medical School study, 3.5 percent of American women have binge-eating disorder (BED). The name sounds an awful lot like what I do, but by the clinical definition -- "eating larger amounts of food than normal during a two-hour period at least twice a week for six months" -- I don't qualify. (Mine is more of a 30-minute, four times a month habit.) Then why do I still feel like I have a problem?

Seeking clarification, I called Martin Binks, PhD, the director of behavioral health and research at the Duke Diet and Fitness Center in Durham, North Carolina. "Just because you don't meet the diagnostic criteria doesn't mean you don't suffer," Binks assured me. "There's an eating continuum -- varying levels of eating 'discontrol.' Regular mini binges, for example [hundreds instead of thousands of extra calories a day] eventually add up, and the psychological and health damage may be even greater."

I think back to nights when I've been full from dinner but still managed to wolf down seven or eight Oreos. Or lunches when I've eaten my sandwich in record time -- then moved on to the chips on my friend's plate. I cringe. Living on the verge of an eating disorder is a tricky place to find yourself. On the one hand, I'm pretty open about it with friends. When I order another hot dog after devouring my first two, it becomes a joke: "Where are you putting that one, your big toe?" We have a good laugh, and then they dot their lips with napkins while I continue chowing down. On the other hand, there are lonely moments when I'm terrified that if I can't control something as basic as eating, how am I supposed to control other aspects of adulthood, like paying down a mortgage and raising children? (Neither of which I've yet to attempt.)

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erinmac2013 wrote:

I don't enjoy binge eating in the moment and I feel ashamed of myself afterwards. I want to get better. I have pinpointed the feeling of doing it as loneliness, anxiety or guilt about giving myself time to just sit and do nothing. Eating is an activity, it distracts me from my feelings. I want to work on allowing myself to just feel those feelings. It makes me feel less alone to know that other people struggle with this problem.

10/20/2013 07:17:14 AM Report Abuse
erinmac2013 wrote:

This story is very inspiring to read. I am twenty-one years old and have been binge eating for the past four years twice a week. I am considered a lean person (5'8, 128lbs) so when I tell people that I binge eat they assume that I have a disordered image of eating. Last night, I ate a normal dinner of tofu and salad, a piece of pizza, 2 calzones, a hot chocolate and a large bowl of chocolate chips. While I did this, I felt completely out of control.

10/20/2013 07:17:02 AM Report Abuse
dswilliams65 wrote:

I was a binge eater as a teen, a bulimic borderlining on anorexia in my 20's, and now in my 40's I'm back to binge eating. Guilt, self-hate, disgust, misery, fear of looking in the mirror.... Thanks for sharing your story; it's nice to know I am not alone.

2/25/2013 07:11:50 PM Report Abuse
crazydreams1 wrote:

I loved this article! I became aware of my binge eating after eatin 2 cookies, a muffin, and chips all in 30 minutes. The advice here sounds wonderfulk and i cant wait to try it out for myself!!

5/4/2012 06:31:47 PM Report Abuse
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3/4/2012 03:28:03 AM Report Abuse

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