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10 Ways to Make Sex Sexier

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Bored with your sex life? Try these tips from the experts.

Tips 1-3

You're not quite sure how -- or when -- it happened. You used to have so much fun in bed, but suddenly your sex life just isn't what it used to be. By 11 p.m. you're more interested in The Daily Show than in a steamy session with your guy. Even when you do work up the energy, sex feels so...predictable. The excitement, even the passion, are MIA.

The thing is, you like sex -- a lot. And you love your partner. So what gives? "There are all kinds of emotional barriers to having good sex, from poor body image to boredom," says sex therapist Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center in Chicago and author of The Passion Prescription. "The good news is that you can get beyond them and reconnect with your sensuality."

Ready to light your fire? These moves will make sex hotter, happier, and just plain sexier.

1. Like yourself naked.

Women who have the best sex lives feel good about their bodies, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a sex therapist in New York City and the author of Fearless Sex. "They see themselves as strong and sexy." Unfortunately, according to Berman, up to 80 percent of women in the United States suffer from a negative body image. "Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas," says Berman. "She carries that feeling into the bedroom, and when her partner's kissing her thighs, she's busy thinking, 'God, I'm so fat!'" To boost your body confidence, give yourself a reality check. The next time you're at the store or in the gym, take a look around you at all the attractive women who are a variety of shapes and sizes. Remind yourself: There is no one ideal. Then ask your partner what he loves about your body, and write it down. Read the list every morning. Finally, compliment yourself. At least once a week, stand in front of the mirror naked and focus on your favorite features -- your toned arms, your firm butt, your gorgeous breasts. Touch each part and say aloud what you like about it -- this will help to reinforce your feelings, says Berman.

2. Make the mind-body connection.

Think about those moments in your life when you feel completely in tune with your body. Maybe it's after you finish a long run -- your blood is pumping and you're relaxed and exhilarated. Or perhaps it's when you do yoga and achieve a mind-body meld. Chances are, this doesn't happen often enough. "When a woman has a negative self-image, she tends to disconnect from how her body feels," says Berman. To reestablish the bond, do something that makes you feel good in your skin at least once a day -- treat yourself to a massage, go apple picking with your kids, wear the jeans that give you an ego boost the minute you slide them on. "Whenever you're tuned in to your body and what it's capable of, you're naturally more sensual," says Davidson.

3. Swear off sex.

It's extreme, yes, but highly effective. That's because when you tell yourself you can't have something, you want it even more. The same is true in the bedroom -- especially if you and your partner have been together for a while and sex has become automatic. Instead of focusing on the end game, learn to enjoy the sensuality of sex. Tease yourself -- and him. Get undressed, dim the lights and take turns exploring each other's bodies. "When you're the one doing the touching, concentrate on communicating love and sensuality to your partner," says Berman. "When you're on the receiving end, let yourself feel the sensations of each and every stroke. This will help you reconnect with each other on a whole new level." Not only that but by the time you're done, you'll be so excited you'll barely be able to stand it. Hold off (if you can!) for a night or two, to let the anticipation build.

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8/21/2014 02:57:05 PM Report Abuse
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7/23/2014 06:50:17 PM Report Abuse
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6/20/2014 05:45:49 AM Report Abuse
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3/18/2014 08:17:47 AM Report Abuse
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