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Maria Kang Plays Defense Against the Haters (Again!) Post Facebook Ban

Written on November 27, 2013 at 11:22 am , by

No excuses mommy blogger Maria Kang got the Facebook boot this past weekend for more controversial comments. Do you think she’s in the wrong? (Photo courtesy of Maria Kang)

Maria Kang is just a mom—a mom gone viral, that is, when her ab-flaunting “What’s your excuse?” captioned photo sparked controversy and media scrutiny. Things had just died down for the Californian fitness enthusiast when she hit another nerve last week with a Facebook rant about plus-size women in lingerie.

Kang issued a warning about what she had to say, then vented her disapproval for those who encourage overweight women to be proud of their bodies. The mother of three urged her nearly 230,000 followers to change the mentality that’s sweeping the nation (sourcing multiple statistics), noting that she was not knocking those who are proud and heavy…but instead simply trying to empower healthy role models in society. Three hours later, Facebook removed her post and she was temporarily blocked from the site altogether.

“I think that everyone should love and accept their bodies,” Kang told FITNESS yesterday. “I don’t think that anyone can progress when they have a foundation of shame, so I didn’t want to seem like I was bashing them. No one should be ashamed of who they are. But there is a fine line that we’re walking, and that’s what I was talking about: When you say you love and accept yourself versus love and progress yourself.”

With two-thirds of our nation obese, $3 trillion being spent on health care, and childhood obesity on the rise, Kang believes there are multiple contributing factors tipping the scales, all in which stem from family. “Economically, it’s tougher to get good food when you’re poor,” she says. “Socially, if people around you are eating like crap and it’s normal, then it’s normalized. And culturally, if people are saying you’re okay being overweight, they keep on reinforcing this outlook.” The root of the problem, in her eyes, lies in leadership. “If the parents are healthy and they are healthy role models, then they can raise healthy kids. That’s just how it goes. It’s so simple but so hard when we live in such a blameful culture.”

So is she at fault for fat-shaming? Is the criticism warranted? According to Kang, she’s simply telling the truth and would never intend on hurting anyone’s feelings. “If you have excess body fat, especially around your midsection where your organs are, that’s not healthy for you,” she said in response to the recent backlash. “I think we should never shame anybody to lose weight. We should motivate them in a positive way, but when you say love and accept yourself, you’re creating not only a normalization, but a sedentary, complacent society.”

Although some have deemed Kang a pudge-loathing personal trainer, that’s not exactly the case. “I’m average…and nowhere near a size zero,” the former NASM-certified instructor said. She doesn’t work out for a living — her day job revolves around overseeing the ownership of two residential care homes for the elderly — but she loves volunteering her time to mommy exercise groups every Tuesday night. “I think your job is to be healthy if you’re a mom,” she added, a concept that provoked her founding of Fitness Without Borders, a community education and motivation non-profit.

So, why so passionate about the obesity epidemic? Kang, a former bulimic, witnessed first-hand the debilitating repercussions of the medical condition with her own mother. “She’s 52 years-old and has so many health issues. I work with people who are overweight by choice. I think that’s the reason why people are so pissed off; I’m telling them that they have a choice when they really want to have an excuse.”

Is it a choice? We at FITNESS believe someone can be fat but fit, and you can’t tell what’s going on with a person’s body just by the way they look. Regardless, Kang certainly knows how to stir the pot, and one thing we can totally get behind is her belief that small steps in the right direction can lead to major gains, which doesn’t happen over night. According to Kang, you have to be uncomfortable with where you are to desire change. “It’s not an all or nothing thing,” she said. “You have to take it one step at a time.”

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  • Barbora

    I definitely think there are exceptions like yours…i’m sure she realizes this too even though she didn’t emphasize that…but i think she is speaking to the general public…and that’s a HUGE amount of people that her words do apply to. Most people will be overweight b/c of their lifestyle not a health condition. Of course she’ll piss ppl off…good!!!!

  • LUFUNO

    I DON’T AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAYING.I THINK YOU SHOULD READ HER STATEMENT AGAIN.SHE NEVER SAID YOU HAVE TO BE SLIM TO BE HEALTHY.JUST READ AGAIN.

  • LUFUNO

    I AGREE WITH YOU A 100 PERCENT

  • bendygirl

    Nope. I’m a trainer and yoga instructor, with a nutrition diploma and I think she’s a lousy writer, a piss poor motivator, a lazy thinker, a shallow, vai child,and,she needs to learn about the,real condition of American women beyond the yummy Mummy set of Sacramento before she conti
    nues beaking off

  • samfay

    i dont think that Maria is fat-blasting,some people know that they are over weight or obese and what she said probably got them angry because they want to be where she’s at but choose not to make the extra effort and start…i have started getting my own fitness back in check not because of Maria but because I want to be healthy for me,I go at my own pace,I go at my own strength,but I go.I ran 2 5Ks this year and I felt great and i continue because I want to continue to feel great…so people stop hating on Maria, if you dont want to be inspired by her well,ok fine…but dont try to stop her from inspiring others.we as women need to stand together and strive to be fit, not fat….
    Maria God bless you and your family, and not because many people may not like what you say and do;doesn’t mean that you’re doing or saying the wrong thing :-) so keep keeping on…

  • Scott Richardson

    You believe someone can be fat but fit? What exactly are you on?

  • LoVeFiTnEsS

    I believe that every person is different. But she is trying to make a strong point to inspire & push people to do what they need to be healther. Sure she sounds harsh, but lets put it this way did American Idol kick Simon off? No, truth hurts sometimes but it can piss you off enough sometimes to better yourself! So let her be & live your life to your fullest!

  • Avgvstvs

    Even if it is fat shaming SO WHAT? We need MORE of that if anything and less bullshit excuses from fat people.

  • cdonald

    As a male, I’m more impressed with women who practice medicine, practice law, teach school, or work in the sciences–and might carry extra weight as a consequence of their time in spent intellectual pursuits, rather than exercise–than a woman whose entire life revolves around her physical fitness level (I’d sure like to know the name of her alleged non-profit, how much money it actually brings in and distributes, and how much staff it has). Kang comes across–in interviews and her blog–as completely narcissistic, self-absorbed and unpleasant–listing accomplishment as writing an “award-winning” poem when a child, or being interviewed on the radio. With Kang, beauty is indeed only skin deep.

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  • Guest

    She never said you had to or should look like her. She said you should want to be healthy and if you are 100 lbs overweight that isn’t healthy. If people weren’t so sensitive they could understand her message rather than take offense. This website she is talking about clearly states the problem. They call these obese women “normal” and “regular” women which is not something we should be proud of. Healthy…a healthy weight and a healthy lifestyle are things we should be proud of. That does not mean you have to be stick thin. I don’t understand why people can not realize that?

  • Guest

    The annoying thing is how many people blame their medication, which most of the time they wouldn’t need if they took care of themselves to begin with, although there are certain circumstances where that is not the case. However, it is. NOT medication that is the problem! Stop using it as an excuse! Two thirds of our country are not on weight gaining meds and if they are then, once again, it is because they didn’t care enough to take care of themselves and now it is a crutch to continue to be lazy!

  • Guest

    When did she say you had to be sexy and thin or look like her? She said you needed to be healthy.

  • da raphael

    it IS our business when people are lazy-fat. Just like in prehistoric times a fat person meant less food for others or less help in hunting and farming, nowadays it is the billions and billions of dollars these people are costing us (and make no mistake, THEY ARE the ones costing us) in healthcare provisions yearly. Fit people have to take everyone else under their umbrella, which is patently unfair.

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  • Valerie

    Did you read the part where she has a full time job? “I’m average…and nowhere near a size zero,” the former NASM-certified instructor said. She doesn’t work out for a living — her day job revolves around overseeing the ownership of two residential care homes for the elderly

  • Valerie

    She is so correct! It shouldn’t be so controversial to discuss the obesity issue in our country! “Fact: Obesity-related costs place a huge burden on the U.S. economy
    Direct health costs attributable to obesity have been estimated at $52 billion in 1995 and $75 billion in 2003.”http://www.cdc.gov/PDF/Facts_About_Obesity_in_the_United_States.pdf

  • Kaya

    I don’t think she needs to word anything differently. Different people respond to different motivators. Some people (like me) respond best to a tougher, tell-it-to-me-straight approach while others, (probably like yourself,) require a more gentle touch. I say if you don’t like one approach, find the one that works best for you.

  • Kaya

    Isn’t this exactly the point she’s trying to make? You have your excuse to stay complacent. No one said it’s easy, no one said you have to get back your pre-baby body, but there’s no reason you can’t be fit and healthy without a little hard work and discipline.

  • admind

    Diets are important too for the benefit of the body, but these meals may turn out to be a burden on the body and increase the weight much in the absence of food program regular but before that should be here a practical program and the regular person the same in his day full until they are finding positive results for Weight Loss

  • walter

    It’s always the unattractive people saying something about fat.