No More Low-Confidence Days

Focus on the Inner You

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Compete in your personal Olympics. Confidence comes from measurable successes, says Stacy Berman, a certified personal trainer in New York City. So instead of doing the same old thing in the gym, find challenges that matter to you. How quickly can you walk from your house to your daughter's preschool? How many laps around the park can you run with your dog? Time yourself on day one, then again after two weeks of practice to gauge your progress. When you reach your preset goal, reward yourself with a manicure and pedicure.

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Learn to love alone time. If you need the constant buzz of other people to feel confident, take some time to appreciate the joy of solitude -- try dining solo at a sushi bar, taking a five-mile walk alone, or dedicating a Sunday afternoon to shutting off your cell phone and going for a drive. "Use the time to reflect on your accomplishments and what you value and love about yourself," says Ursiny. Think of it as a chance to recall your own "best of me" moments, unencumbered by outsiders or demands on your time.

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Own your look. Throw away those pictures of Reese's and Halle's hair, forget what your mom said about your needing to look "more professional," and don't let your friends talk you into a crazy color you'll later regret. Instead, find a stylist who'll work with you to create your personal style. You'll project confidence by knowing exactly who you are.