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The Resolution Solution: 7 Goals You Can Meet This Year

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I resolve to...go to bed angry.

You and your guy just had a major argument. Dr. Phil might say it's healthy to get your feelings off your chest before you turn in for the night, but research suggests that's a myth. "It's like using gasoline to put out a fire. Venting only feeds angry feelings and aggressive impulses," explains Brad J. Bushman, PhD, a professor of communications and psychology at Ohio State University in Columbus.

In one of his studies, 600 students were showered with insults (by an accomplice to the study); then researchers tracked the subjects' feelings while they did one of three things: thought about their provoker while hitting a punching bag, thought about becoming fit while hitting a punching bag, or sat quietly for three minutes. The punchers who focused their attention on their provoker reported the most feelings of anger and behaved the most aggressively; meanwhile, those who did nothing experienced the fewest feelings of hostility.

Instead of using your partner as a verbal punching bag after a frustrating argument, give yourself time to calm down. Do something relaxing instead, like counting to 10 while taking deep breaths or snuggling with your dog, Bushman recommends. Once you've cooled off, try solving the problem with a calm heart-to-heart conversation. Even if it means waiting until the morning, it's better than a screeching late-night argument.

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marcellinaf wrote:

Not my style...

2/26/2014 11:04:07 AM Report Abuse
safiahmad71 wrote:

I would love to eat more fish!

2/9/2014 12:03:33 AM Report Abuse
resmayo wrote:

Not my style. Norma

1/11/2014 05:27:06 AM Report Abuse
cynthia_brown wrote:

Disappointing that Fitness needs to recycle an article from 2011. Writer's Block?

1/7/2014 06:39:39 AM Report Abuse
franlannom1 wrote:

I would love to eat more fish! Seafood is an all-time favorite, BUT I'm not especially interested in glowing in the dark! Not only has radiation from Fukushima reached our shores, a huge amount of seafood eaten in America is imported.

1/5/2014 02:27:58 PM Report Abuse

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