What They Oughta Teach in Charm School
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- Charm Lesson 1: Sweat the Details
- Charm Lesson 2: Praise, Then Praise Some More
- Charm Lesson 3: Ego Stroke -- Subtly
- Charm Lesson 4: Value Others' Time
- Charm Lesson 5: Think Like a Leader
- Charm Lesson 6: Make Niceness Your Default
- Smooth Moves Any Woman Can Pull Off
Smooth Moves Any Woman Can Pull Off
We asked Jan Hargrave, author of Let Me See Your Body Talk, for the tips even the least socially nimble of us can master. Promise -- this stuff works like a charm.
- Go slow. A calm voice and relaxed demeanor put others at ease, and people are more apt to open up when they don't feel rushed.
- Stay open. Crossing your arms and legs can make you seem standoffish and unapproachable.
- Lean in. Angling your upper body toward the person you're talking to and maintaining eye contact draw her into conversation.
- Adopt a Mona Lisa smile. A half smile is more intimate and less disarming. Julia Roberts' high-beam grin may be captivating onscreen, but in real life it can look forced and a little scary.
- Mimic with subtlety. Mirroring someone's facial expressions fosters a connection.
Originally published in FITNESS magazine, October 2006.
