10 Ways to Make Sex Sexier

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After a few years together, it's easy to get lazy in bed. But you both deserve better. "If you don't put energy into your relationship, you won't get energy out of it," says Davidson.

Research shows that new and adventurous activities may stimulate the brain to produce dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a key role in sexual desire. Do something daring outside the bedroom and dopamine levels may skyrocket -- along with your sex drive. Challenge your guy to a heart-pounding activity like rock climbing or white-water rafting. "Experiencing something new and exhilarating together helps replicate that feeling you had in the beginning of your relationship when you couldn't get enough of each other," says Berman.

"Men want to be your knight in shining armor when it comes to sex -- they're eager for you to tell them what feels good," says Berman. "The problem is, so many women are out of touch with their bodies they have no idea what to say." Help him, and yourself, by showing him what turns you on. Put your hand on top of his and guide him in how you want to be touched -- including how much pressure to use. When you're ready to move on to oral sex, or to bring in a few sex toys, speak up. "This is the only way he's going to know what works for you," says Berman.

When you're stressed out, it's impossible to feel sexy. That's because when a woman experiences chronic tension, her body produces higher levels of oxytocin, a chemical that cancels out the effects of the sex hormone testosterone. As a result, your libido takes a nosedive. Recharge your sexual batteries by doing things that let you break free from your hectic everyday life, says Berman. Play a CD that reminds you of your college days and sing along. Splurge on something you'd normally never buy -- like platform pumps -- and wear them for a girls' night out. When you're relaxed and feeling good about yourself, sex will start to seem within the realm of possibility again.